Life is always full of problems and challenges. Sometimes, life gets in the way, and you feel they are not with you when you need them the most. It is human nature to constantly look for help from others as we wrestle with life’s difficult experiences. But once you realize that no one will help you in your difficult times, overcoming life’s journey is a great strength.
Your mind is empowered by the single-minded determination that you must continue your journey no matter how difficult the human journey may be. Through this path, you can bear patience through self-understanding, creating a different aspect of life and positive thoughts sinking into your heart. When you feel that no one else is there for you, the need to overcome the journey is stronger in you. Let’s examine twenty reasons why no one will help you.
01. Busy schedule.
Living in a society where people embrace the busyness of day to day, we can have too many commitments and responsibilities to help individuals. Nowadays, many responsibilities and duties are associated with a person’s life. In addition to their own lives, they have to do their family life for their loved ones. In the face of such situations, man leads a very complicated life.
Because of this, they may not have enough time to take care of other people’s needs. Look at your life for a moment. How many tasks do you perform in your daily life? Due to this, you will need more time to know or help other people in the society.
02. Lack of awareness.
One of the reasons why you don’t get help from other people is that they need to know that you need help. They don’t know what you need or your situation, so other people don’t offer to help you. After knowing that, they will never offer to help without it. Because society gives help to the person who needs help, no one will come forward to help the helpless person.
No one wants to be embarrassed or embarrassed by helping people who don’t need it. Imagine a person near your house fasting for two or three days. But you don’t offer to help him because you don’t know about this. It’s not your fault. Because you are not properly informed about it.
03. Fear of crossing the line.
One of the main reasons why we don’t get help from other people is the reluctance to trespass or cross certain boundaries. There are many different types of people in today’s society, and there is a fear that by going to help them, we will have to face unnecessary issues and problems.
Not offering to help. Some people fear that going over the line to help others will become blamed in their lives. No person is willing to help a thief or a murderer ostracized by society because of the fear that society will blame him for helping a bad person.
04. Limited resources.
Nowadays, most of the common people live on their limited resources daily. Because of the minimal resources that person has, they may not be economically strong enough to help another person. Therefore, they do not offer to help another person. It’s not something they do deliberately; it happens because of their helplessness and financial difficulties. Many people make their livelihood difficult.
In such situations, they will not offer to help because they are not financially strong enough to support another person. It cannot be seen as their fault. Their social status determines it. At that time, a family barely provided for was not strong enough to help another person with money or other resources, so they did not offer to help another person.
05. Prior disagreements.
Nowadays, some people resort to not showing gratitude to those who have helped them. No one is willing to help such people. If the person who helps once has to face a problem because of the help he has given, he will not offer to help the same person again. The reason for this is the fear of getting help and creating unnecessary problems in life. Past conflicts influence your reluctance to help others.
No one is interested in helping people who do not respond well to help. A person who asks for a loan of money, saying that he is in need, breaks his promise, and after his needs are fulfilled, he forgets about the help and does not pay the debt, so he will not get any more help.
06. Fear of judgment.
We help a person from the heart. But you will not under any circumstances act to criticize or depreciate the help you have rendered. The reason is that the person who offers help is embarrassed. If a person who helped you one day is told by their mother that their help is insufficient, they will never come forward to help you again for any reason. It’s because they fear judgment.
Imagine that you gave some money to a needy person with good intentions. Then, if he says that the money is insufficient, you will not offer to help such people again because of your shyness there. It is because of the fear of others’ judgment.
07. Lack of emotional capacity.
People are in different mental states, and their ability to help another person is directly affected by their emotional capacity. Sometimes, having a weak mind and insufficient mental and economic strength to help another person can affect it. Some people have emotional exhaustion that can hinder their ability to help. A person who is helpless and sad because of a stressful life problem does not have the emotional capacity to help another person.
Imagine that a person has to face a very tragic event in his life. When a loved one of his family has passed away from him in a car accident, he is distressed. In such a situation, he is not in a good state of mind to help another person.
08. Fear of over-commitment.
Some people living in society make sacrifices in different ways for their needs, goals, ambitions, and expectations, no matter how much they sacrifice for themselves. But, such people do not offer to help another person because of the fear of committing too much without doing the same for another person. They are afraid that if you offer to help them, your money, time, and effort will be wasted.
Because of this, they do not offer to help anyone. Some do not offer to help someone who needs help because they think that offering to help another person is unnecessary trouble.
09. Lack of connection.
Some people in the society offer their friends and loved ones any help. But they are reluctant to help the unknown person with whom they have no relation. They only help friends, relatives, and people they have known for a long time. They do not offer to help others because they feel that helping a stranger is unnecessary and a hassle.
Some people do not offer to help anyone unrelated to them because they are concerned about their family environment, social level, education level, blood relations, etc., when helping someone.
10. Disbelief.
We do relationships or deal with a person based on their trust. When a person we have helped breaks our trust in them, we are disappointed and will never offer to help them again. The reason for this is that our trust in others is broken. No one comes forward to help deceitful and cunning people.
A certain person in my village asked a friend of mine for a loan for one of his needs, and he promised to pay it back within two months. It turned out that the person was not interested in paying the amount, and after a very difficult time, his loan was settled. After that, my friend never came forward to help such people.
11. Absence of urgency.
We ask a person for help when we need help. But the person asking for help may not be in a hurry or interested enough to help us simultaneously. He may be behaving that way because he doesn’t understand the urgency of your situation. He would not have done so if we had asked for help and given the time frame for which we needed it.
Because he doesn’t know the need for help, he only gives us the help we need once all his daily work is done.
I will give you simple examples. Imagine that you have an urgent need for money. Imagine you have asked for money from a close friend of yours. It is not your friend who is to blame, but his not knowing the moment when you need help.
12. Fear of rejection.
Help is given to a person with the expectation that they will gladly accept our help. But if we suspect someone will refuse our help, we will not offer help because of the shame and the strong reluctance to be embarrassed. Therefore, even if you need help at some point, other people may not offer to help you because of their fear and doubt that you will not accept their help. Because of the reluctance to help another person and be rejected or upset, others do not come forward for it, even in times of need.
No matter how many old clothes a person has or how many people are helpless without clothes and need them, they do not give them because of the fear and doubt that their donations will be rejected.
13. Caring for others.
Some people love to help the needy and people in need. But if they have already given help to needy people, they will not come forward to help another person. The reason is that they also have a limit to help other people. We help others with our limited energy and limited resources. Therefore, it becomes difficult for us to give help to every person who asks us for money or help.
Imagine that some people come to your house asking for financial assistance. Then you give them some money according to your energy level. In another case, if a similar group comes to your house asking for some help, in such a case, there is an opportunity to help you. You also have limits to help other people. You give help according to your energy level. Therefore, you may only be able to help some people who ask for your help.
14. Fear of conflict.
We help another person when they need help and when we feel they need help. No one likes to face unexpected conflicts or problems without a person’s help. The reason for this is the strong reluctance to cause unnecessary trouble and problems by giving help. If any person feels a problem in his life, he will not come forward to help anyone for any reason. That is human nature. No person would expect to help others and get into trouble. Such people cannot be expected in the present day. People who want to avoid trouble will never get involved in unnecessary problems or get involved. Let me give you a simple example.
|Imagine that one of your neighbors needed help, but because he had bad habits, no one offered to help him. Imagine that even though you want to help that person, your loved ones and wife or husband are strongly against it. In such a case, if you help him, you will have to face a lot of unnecessary conflicts. Because of this, you are not ready to help him.
15. Competing obligations.
With the person’s busyness, the amount of responsibilities he has to fulfill increases daily. A person who is entangled in a bunch of responsibilities has few opportunities to help others. With his restless lifestyle, they need more time to devote to others. Therefore, they do not intervene to provide it for the person who needs help. They prioritize only the responsibilities they have to fulfill in their life.
He has a bunch of different responsibilities to manage. We live with many responsibilities in life, such as taking care of our loved ones, fulfilling responsibilities for our children, and making sacrifices for our parents and loved ones. In this situation, we may need their help. Help is deemed essential but not interfered with. Even if the complaints of a person who needs money are heard, they are not ready to help such a person with the responsibilities and difficulties in the person’s life.
16. Lack of sensitivity.
We help a certain person because we have compassion for this person. But some people are never sensitive to the needs and sorrows of others by the society. Even if someone asks for help, they don’t intervene to help this person because they are insensitive in the face of oppressive life situations. The nature of being heartbroken by seeing the suffering of others is very few among people.
Therefore, even if someone needing help asks for help, they contribute. Do not offer to provide. Although empathy is a very good human quality, in today’s society, it is rare among people, so they do not come forward to stand up for and help others. Some people are not compassionate enough not to help a person on the street and not to give a meal to a poor person. They are not kind-hearted enough to enjoy the food they are given. Because of this, they do not offer to help others.
17. Fear of responsibility.
Every second we spend, there are many responsibilities in our life. Many people do not come forward to help those who need it because of the fear of bearing it. Some people are not kind enough to help because they want to avoid this situation. Because they think that helping another person is putting an unnecessary burden on their head, and they don’t come forward for it.
The rather middle-aged man near my house never offered to help others. One day, a group of young people in the area decided to bring books and essential items to the children of low-income families living in our area. There, any person had the opportunity to give anything they wanted. At that time, a large number of rich people in our area promised to provide financial assistance. But when we went to the house of this middle-aged person near our house, they did not offer to give us anything. There, he said that he would decide later. Started to avoid it.
18. Cultural stigma.
Some people live their lives according to their cultural norms, so many people who have no intention of doing things against their culture are encouraged to help or offer this help to others for their cultural reasons. They don’t offer to help marginalized people and those who are victimized by society without doing things that come with the social norms and rules in the culture.
No one comes forward to associate and help a person who has engaged in various immoralities, is branded as a bad person in society, and is marginalized from society. not
19. Personal Limitations.
Many people live their lives with various problems and challenges in their personal life. During such a period, when someone asks for help, they may not be able to provide help. The reason is that their lives are also facing various downfalls and challenges. And it is difficult for each person to help others in the face of personal limitations. It is not offered to those who need help due to various personal reasons such as health, financial, stress, and family problems. It is not their fault; it is a situation that arises because their personal limitations bind and block the opportunities to help others.
Imagine another person asking for help when a person suffers from a serious illness and does not have the strength or mental level to help that person. Because of this, he cannot help the person who asked him for help, no matter how helpless he is.
20. Fear of failure.
Many people are concerned about helping others, and one of them is that being unable to do so effectively may make the person seeking help anxious. After hesitating whether they can help the other person as successfully as he expect, some individuals have yet to offer to help. Because the person who asked for help is not happy, not satisfied with that help, because of the fear that his need can be fulfilled with the help he gives, some people do not offer it to the people who need help. The fear of whether it will be good sometimes prevents us from doing it.
When a person without money asks for money, many people do not come forward to help another person because of thoughts like whether he will be satisfied to give the small amount of money he has or whether he will be able to do his work successfully.
Conclusion:
It is very useful for us to get help from others in difficult situations. It can awaken the strength in our minds and create a wonderful ability and courage to walk our life journey alone without feeling that no one will help us. Walking your journey alone, facing challenges successfully, waking up to your abilities, and becoming a strong and courageous person is a reason to move forward through positive thoughts.
Even if you are alone and do not get help from any other person to overcome challenges in life and your expectations, always remember you have the self-ability, perseverance, strength, and courage to succeed. Never be sad if you get help from others or not. Continue your journey alone.
