You will meet different friends at different times in your life, and they can make a special impact on your life, and you should be smart to identify your friends. Friends in your life can come in three forms. So you can categorize friends as friends who will be with you throughout your life, friends who will be with you for a certain period, and friends who will bring you a certain experience.
The true reality of life is that if it lasts, it will perish, and some relationships last for a considerable period, and according to the above dharma, it is normal for friends to come and go in your life. When you realize the true reality of your life, you will welcome the friends who come into your life and see them leave your life normally and make it successful. Many factors cause friends come and go in your life, and they can be stated as follows.
01. Changing where you live.
Many times in your life, you will have to change your location due to major reasons like marriage or living in another area if not the same place of business or not the same place. It is a common occurrence that your friends leave you as a result. Through that, you may lose some friends in your life due to not having the opportunity to spend time with friends as before.
I want to explain this to you through a simple example. The school I attended during the school year was held at a considerable distance from my home, and many people I met as friends in the school did not get opportunities to meet after the school ended. The main reason for that was the considerable distance between home and school.
02. Personal development.
It is normal for personal growth to occur over time. As a result, ideas and attitudes undergo a significant change. Through this, the friends you have associated with will often clash between your ideas and attitudes, and through this, the concept of friends coming and going can be indicated. When you finish school, go to university and start working or running a business. There will be real growth in your life and, along with the growth in your life, in your ideas and attitudes.
You tend to associate with suitable friends and friends. Many friends in the past have left you. Going will be normal. Accordingly, with your growth, the coming and going of friends will become a reality. In most cases, as you grow, it is normal for you to have former friends who match your ideas and attitudes and leave the other group. It’s normal for friends to drift apart as you grow up. From the friends you had in your first year of school to your last year of school, you won’t have friends from your first year. The reason is that with your growth, your attitudes and opinions change significantly, and it is normal for friends come and go through it.
03. Breach of trust.
Friends come into your life, and only loyal friends remain. But in many cases, the friends who come into your life will not be able to maintain the friendship because your friends are violating your privacy and trustworthiness. Sometimes very personal things have been shared with others, and the broken trust leads to losing the friendship.
Let me show you a simple example. I spoke with a friend I trusted very much about a very serious matter with my trusted friend. I told the friend to keep my confidence so my secret information would not be known to my loved ones.
But after a few weeks, because my loved ones came to know about the very private things that I talked about with my friend, my trust in my friend was broken, and through that, I became worried, and it also brought a lesson to my life.
It’s normal for friends to come and go due to broken loyalties.
04. Financial and health issues.
Remember that your financial stability or health issues are the main reason for friends coming into your life.
When you have financial stability, having a large circle of friends is normal, and more friends will naturally be attracted to your life. Financial stability can also be a big factor in making real friendships. If your health deteriorates and you suffer from a lingering illness, you will lose many of your friends.
I want to give you a simple example. I want to tell you that during the Covid pandemic, my financial situation has collapsed to a significant extent, and as a result, I have lost a significant number of friends who were with me. I realized that many friends stayed in my life, hoping for my financial stability and my help for them. Friends coming over is normal, and remember that your health level and financial level can greatly impact it.
05. Change of interest.
In the beginning, in many cases, friendships are formed, and the flow of those friendships over time is based on a clear understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. Friends often come and go as they learn that interests change. Need help understanding friendship.
Another thing that happens in many cases is that even if there is a friendship, there are many cases where there is no clear understanding of each other, and as a result, it is normal for the friendship to disappear as soon as it is formed.
It is common for friends come and go due to not being able to exchange ideas properly as the friends who meet are working in different time frames in two fields.
06. Lack of confidence.
In many cases, friendships are formed, and loyalty can be cited as the main factor that causes friendships to last for a long time.
07. Inflexibility.
Most friendships can be attributed mainly to inflexibility. It’s normal for friends come and go, but you often have to make flexible decisions to maintain your friendship. You may want to avoid watching a movie. But when your friend invites you to watch a movie with him, you can’t save the friendship by simply saying no. You should maintain flexibility when dealing with friends at different times, even if you don’t like them.
08. Lack of effort.
I want to explain this to you with a very simple example. I want to remember a friend I treated with great love and respect. The things that made me love him are that he made a big impact on my life and gave me various ideas and advice to make me financially stable. Because of that, I had a habit of constantly talking to my friend. But with time, I realized he was not interested in me. As a result, I realized that my friendship with my friend was pointless. After that, I did not arrange to talk or meet my friend.
For a friendship to exist, the two parties who have the friendship must work to maintain it willingly with a good understanding of each other. With it, it will be possible to maintain the friendship of more than one party. It will cause friends to come and go.
09. Teaching life lessons.
Remember that even if some friends come into your life briefly, they bring you great lessons. For this, I would like to explain a real-life experience today. I have worked to provide constant emotional and financial support to a dear friend to improve his quality of life. As a result, I remembered to share my business idea and all the work I had done with him. As a result, based on my ideas and suggestions, he started my business activities near my business location and all the activities I did. He also made wrong comments about me to my relatives and friends.
What I realized with that is that no matter what kind of friend comes into my life, I am not inclined to trust them, and that is something that should happen with time, and I decided not to reveal any of my personal information to friends. Friends may come and go to teach lessons in real life.
10. Pursuit of personal interests.
Achieving personal goals will often lead to loss of friendship It is because the person does not have time to maintain friendships due to the pursuit of goals. It may be normal for your friends to leave you as a result. Some people have financial and business goals, and they work towards them where they are not aware of their outside world, and not paying attention to loved ones or friends can really affect the loss of friends.
I want to explain the experience of my friend for that. My friend was constantly working on his financial goals and couldn’t even focus on his life partner. As a result, he lost his life partner and many of his friends.
11. Negative influence.
A truly negative influence can be considered a key factor for future friends. I want to explain it with my life experience. With a friend I met, I regularly communicated to him about the business activities I hoped to do in the future and the goals I should achieve. But he also stated that reaching your goals is very difficult for you and needs to be more realistic. Because of that, I became frustrated with my friend, so I decided to end my friendship. It should be noted that negative comments also clearly affect friends coming.
12. Different mental states.
I want to mention this from my own experience. I had the opportunity to associate with different friends constantly.
Some friends are so sensitive that they don’t think things through and react quickly. Some friends understand them very intelligently and are flexible with each other.
The things understood there are that it is not possible to maintain friendships with sensitive friends for a long time. Intelligent and understanding friends can associate for a long time, and their friendship should be properly understood. As a result, friends come and go due to different mental states.
13. External influences.
External influences are also another factor that mainly affects the breakup of friendships Sometimes parents do not allow their children to have friends with some children, and they impose various restrictions. In some cases, friendships will end, and friendships will break down due to the influence of spouses naming people who should be associated with and people who should not be associated with.
14. Life challenges.
It is normal for a person to face different challenges at different times. A frequent task during various challenge seasons is that many of your friends leave with challenges. But true friends work to maintain friendships even during challenging times. It is normal for many friends who come into your life to leave you during challenging times. The phenomenon of friends coming and going is also common during challenging seasons.
15. Jealous nature.
Jealousy can be a major factor in losing friends. In many friendships, it is common to be critical of and jealous of the other friend’s achievements in other areas of financial, business, or personal development. That is why many friends are recognized over time, and the same reason affects the loss of friends.
16. Weaknesses in communication.
You meet different types of friends in your life, and for some friends, even if you don’t communicate or don’t communicate for a long time, they will not leave your friendship. But in general, communication is an integral part of the existence of many friends in your life. Loss of friends can usually be attributed to not having the opportunity to communicate with them properly.
When you are busy with your business and work, you will miss the opportunity to communicate with your friends. Through that, you will lose a lot of friends. Remember that poor communication also causes friends come and go.
Conclusion
Different friends come into your life in different forms at different times, and there are true, understanding friends who will remain with you throughout your life. But many friends come to you only for a limited period. Some friends may leave your life quickly, adding various sweet and bitter experiences to your life. You will be truly blessed if you have true friends. The above reasons cause friends to come and go, and you can make your life successful by associating with your friends wisely.